"HE" IS NOT THE ONE

HE/SHE IS NOT THE ONE .

Many people enter relationship based on their “Emotional Obsession”. This is not bad but it covers your eyes and enslaves your brain to see and know the worst characters of your partner, at times, the eyes sees it or even the ear hears about it but the brain working under Obsessed emotions paralyses the senses to think, not for now but also for the future. Emotional Obsession diminishes with time and at these times, a lot issues arises in the relationship and a lot worst attitudes can no longer be dealt with.

A writer once wrote that “Love is strong as Death”, Emotional Obsession is what He meant. Mind you, when planning to be in working relationship you need to build your own partner, only you know what you want and what is best for you. You loving shouldn't be for death but rather to make living worthwhile.

This article is written to point out some of the signs you see when he/she is not the one.

• He/she seems very secretive that despite the time of been together you feel you still don't know him/her.
• When you cannot predict his/her movements, what they do doesn't seem plain to you.
• He/she seems rigid, you cant change his/her mind no matter the persuasion.
• You cannot have a good genuine laugh around him/her, your times together seems like its for mourning.
• He/she doesn't have a good relationship with your family and friends.
• He/she cannot cope with indoor boredom, always wanting to be out for fun i.e homeliness scores low.
• He/she never says sorry genuinely to people or even to you.
• He/she always enjoy to show that he/she is better through pride and arrogance.
• He/she never helps in solving your problems, they even seem to be its cause.
• He/she seems not proud to be seen with you.

• He/she doesn't defend you or protect you amidst his/her friends or family, they say never tell your partner's errors to your family, you will forgive him/her but they won't.
• He/she will always consider your opinion and idea invalid and not helpful.
• He/she doesn't put in mind whatever you complain worries you even to ask about later.
• He/she never shows appreciation  for whatever you put together to please him/her.
• If there is too much disrespectful alterations and insults from her or physical abusive insults from him.
• He/she is stingy, cannot share his/her thing between both.
• He/she doesn't feel a thing for God, there was never a moment he/she encourages you religiously.
• He/she more or less doesn't misses you when you're not around, he/she seems to love and know you when present.
• He/she cannot have a long peaceful conversation with you, no matter how quiet your partner is, he/she should be your friend and talk-mate.
• If 70% of the times you talk is made up of fights and misunderstanding.

Then believe me, He/she is not the one.

The so called Emotional Obsession that covers your eyes not to see these bad and significant behavior can only start a relationship, it cannot be a factor for a peaceful long relationship or marriage, it cannot sustain what it starts and please note that marriage cannot solve problems you encountered while dating.

Commitment alone sustains relationships, but the word commitment isn't a nice word.

Commitment entails Sacrifice, a lot things you enjoy doing has to stop, mistakes you easily fall into has to be corrected and cautioned.

Commitment entails Contentment, deriving fulfillment and satisfaction with what you have, a lot of young people cannot be contented with what they have, they want more. Note that there is going to be someone better than your partner, let him/her be the most charming or the prettiest today, by tomorrow you will meet someone better than him/her, sticking with what you already have and believing he/she is the best for you is contentment.

Commitment entails patience, it entails tolerance.

But you can only be committed to a relationship that affects you positively, not with a "He/she" stated above.

A lot guys and ladies concept of relationship these days is "Revenge".. they feel they are stronger and smarter from the experiences they've had in the past and would put in act their newly acquired ability with the new partner, such people are meant to be alone, stay single because nobody deserved to be maltreated emotionally. 

Hence, many of this might affect you but mind you its for ensuring a more peaceful future,

I may write from little understanding or experience of relationships but I am sure one or two point can be picked from here.

I write for its fun and also to impact life.

I am Mide Victory.